Mastin Kipp describes faffing as wasting time “doing nothing as a form of resistance.” We keep ourselves busy by doing countless, useless tasks. Examples of faffing are social media addiction, email addiction, cleaning up too much, living your life based on what other people think, eating comfort food, and not doing things that scare you.
Remember when you had to write a paper in school and how you’d do anything you could to avoid writing it? Maybe you were on AIM, cleaned your room, laid out your clothes for the next day, watched tv, or ate mindlessly. This is not because you didn’t want to write the paper. It’s because you were scared and you didn’t even know it. Scared of the amount of thinking you have to do. Scared of producing poor writing. Scared of not being able to write enough. Scared of feeling inadequate. Scared of failing. The list goes on and on.
I faff every day. It’s something I’ve become very conscious of and now, thanks to Mastin, I have a name for it. When I need to sit down and write the book I’m working on or anything else that requires a lot of energy and attention, I faff. I go on instagram, snapchat, shopping sites, blogs, and the list goes on and on. I zone out. But I’m sick of keeping myself small and avoiding out of fear.
My goal this week is to set an alarm every day for 30 minutes. For 30 minutes, I will turn off my wifi and phone and I will just write. If I go over the 30 minutes, that’s great. If I don’t, that’s fine too. I’m not going to judge. Instead, I’m going to enjoy the process and be present and not avoid! I wasn’t born to faff and you weren’t either!
What will you do this week when you notice yourself faffing? What changes will you make? How will you live your best life?